As women, we find it hard to say ‘no’, don’t we?
We want to be helpful, oblige others, be friendly and likeable. We genuinely want to say ‘yes’ but we can end up saying yes yes yes yes until we get overtired, ill, have headaches and maybe end up having to say ‘no’ from a place of weakness simply because we really can’t do whatever it is.
What if we developed our ‘inner knowing’ such that we could check in with ourselves and ask the question, “is this something I want to do?”, “is this something I need to do”, “is this the right thing to do?”.
What if we practise saying ‘no’ and meaning it?
How will our children learn to say ‘no’ when they may be subject to pressure from their peers to do things you’d rather they didn’t do, things they don’t want to do?
I’ve heard from mums who tell me that their boss expects them to answer emails immediately because after all, they’re working at home, but they’re emailing in the evening when they’re putting children to bed. I hear from mums who don’t feel they can go for a run in the middle of the day in case they miss a call from work.
We all do too much. We love too much. We care too much. We treat others far better than we treat ourselves.
Say ‘yes’ to that bubble bath, that run, that reading time, that lunch with a friend, whatever makes you feel you’re special, say ‘yes’ to that and learn to say ‘no’ to those who are not valuing you and your time.
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