Top 10 things you could do differently to get the results you want with your children

1.     Focus your attention on what they do well.

What we focus on is what we get more of. Children need attention from you so give them attention when they do something well and they learn to do that thing more often as it gives them positive attention.

2.     Use a feedback sandwich.

When you want a change in behaviour comment first on what you like about them, then suggest what would be even better (what you’d like to see more of or less of) and finish on a good note; overall what you are pleased about.

3.     Tell them what you do want.

Using the word ‘don’t’ draws attention to what you don’t want them to do. Instead reword the instruction telling them what you want them to do.

4.     Avoid the word ‘try’ as it suggests they won’t succeed.

Just tell them to do it!

5.     Show them the behaviour you want.

Demonstrate by example how you want your child to behave. They learn from you!

6.     Keep your tone low and slow.

The more out of control you sound, the more they will tune out.

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