Helping your angry child or teen

I’m often asked how to deal with anger and it’s a very interesting issue not only for children but us as well. You’re probably not going to like me telling you this, but children learn how to manage their state from us. They learn how to start being angry and how to stop being angry from us and those around us. They also learn what works and what doesn’t through observation. Children mimic us, they are natural mimics so when we want to change their behaviour we need to show them the behaviour ourselves. So we are making our own unconscious behaviour conscious so they can unconsciously mimic it.

So let’s start by thinking about our own anger, what makes you angry? Here are some of the things that make me angry but you write your own list.

·      Being misunderstood, your motives, actions, what you said?

·      Someone appearing to take advantage of you?

·      Doing more than your fair share of the chores at home or work?

·      Feeling overwhelmed?

·      Not knowing what to do?

·      Being…