Flexibility = Control

Talking about the NLP Presupposition - The person with the most flexibility controls the system

I love this one! It is perfect for children because it is all about new possibilities and that can be fun. It’s about changes and choices. I often introduce them to this concept by saying,

‘Imagine on your computer keyboard you only had one key and that’s all you could use? Or on your piano keyboard you could only use one key? How could you create a beautiful story or a beautiful piece of music with just one key or one note? Use the whole keyboard and combine that with your curiosity to explore how you can use the full capability of that keyboard and you will make beautiful music or a beautiful story.’

Children often feel that they don’t have many choices, their life is controlled by parents and teachers, sometimes also older siblings and even younger siblings who take priority. Their choice can be binary: yes or no, this way or that way, your way or my way. But there are, in fact, many ways and children have the imagination to explore them, but usually don’t because they feel powerless…