Fear of failure

From 'Be a happier parent with NLP' by Judy Bartkowiak

According to NLP there is no failure….only feedback. Now that might seem like an excuse when you’re feeling low and feeling as if you’ve failed. We all know what that feels like don’t we? Sometimes it can be so bad we just want to disappear under a stone and hide until the feelings dissipate.

We do have the resources though to deal with failure and learn from feedback. As babies we just kept on trying to walk and falling and trying some more until we walked our first steps. This continues throughout childhood as we learn to read and write, ride a bike and so on. We encourage our children to overcome disappointments or failures because we know they’ll get there in the end and just need our help and feedback to succeed. When they fall over for the nth time, they don’t give up trying to walk do they? They don’t sit around thinking and feeling a failure, they just pick themselves up and try again and again until at last they take their first step or manage a poo in the potty.

Just as childr…