Be a happier parent

with NLP

NLP, neuro linguistic programming, has a number of basic premises in terms of what the founders (Bandler and Grinder) called the ‘Beliefs of Excellence’ which they created based on researching the beliefs of successful people. They researched leaders in their field and tried to discover what made some people succeed in what they wanted to do where others may not. Virginia Satir, leading Family Therapist of their day was actively involved in this project as one of their models of success. So it seems natural to me that if she as a family therapist, finds these values or beliefs, helpful in her work with parents, that we should consider applying them ourselves.

I talk about these with children and teens too and they find them inspiring and relevant in their lives. Personally, I frequently find myself thinking about them in my own life and then changing my course of action as a result. I find the one ‘if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got’ particularly relevant!

I think if you absorb these basic ground rules into your parenting, you will notice the difference immediately. They are positive and life changing because they offer you a different way of thinking about a situation.

I describe them in detail in all my books, in particular these parenting books.