7 ways a parent can get a better understanding of their children

I’d like to offer you seven ways to get a better understanding of your children.

Why 7?

One of the NLP beliefs of excellence is that ‘the person with the most flexibility controls the system’. This means that the more options we have, the better. Imagine trying to create a piece of music with just two piano notes. What a boring piece of music that would be! Two options is binary, like having only two choices, my way or your way, yes or no.

1. Be curious, think about that piano keyboard. What if there were more than 20 different ways to understand your children? Parents often ask direct, often unimaginative questions, “what did you do at school today?”

Be creative, think about other ways to ask.

Also think about your compelling outcome, why do you want to know?

Also think about when to engage with them. In the car on the way back from school may not be their ‘right time’.

2. Is your child more visual, auditory or kinaesthetic?

Do they think in pictures, sounds or feelings? Match what you say a…